Femdom Glossary

Welcome to the Femdom and FLR Glossary!

Hello there, and welcome to the wonderful world of Female Led Relationships and Femdom! If you’re new to this lifestyle or just dipping your toes in, you’ve probably come across a whirlwind of terms, acronyms, and concepts that can make your head spin. Don’t worry—we’ve all been there!

Think of this glossary as your guidebook to understanding the unique language of FLR and Femdom. From the playful to the profound, the terms we use aren’t just words—they’re reflections of the dynamics, respect, and empowerment that make this lifestyle so fulfilling. Whether you’re exploring for the first time, strengthening your connection with your partner, or simply satisfying your curiosity, these definitions will help you navigate this world with confidence.

I’ve put this together from my perspective as the leading lady in my own FLR, so you’ll find a mix of practical explanations and a few personal tidbits to keep things fun. Remember, this lifestyle is as unique as the people in it, so while these terms provide a great foundation, don’t be afraid to make them your own.

Now, grab a cup of tea (or maybe a glass of wine, because why not?), and let’s dive into the words that define the FLR and Femdom experience! You might even find a new favorite term along the way.

A

B

Brat – A submissive who loves to playfully push buttons and break rules. They behave this way to deliberately provoke attention from their Dominant.

Bull – The male that is having sex with the woman in a Hotwife/cuck scenario or relationship, can also be used for Stag/Vixen

C

CEI – Cum eating instructions

CFNM – Stands for “Clothed Female, Naked Male.” It refers to a fetish or specific scenario in which one or more females remain fully clothed while one or more males are partially or completely nude.

CNC – Consensual non-consent is a pre-agreed sexual scenario where participants act out a non-consensual situation, it could include things like forced sex.

Cuck

D

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E

Edging

F

FLR

Figging – Inserting a bulb of ginger root into an anus. This usually done to a sub for the purpose of punishment as it can be quite painful. This needs to be done with great care as all anal toys must have a flared base.

G

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J

JOI

H

Hotwife

I

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K

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L

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M

Munch

N

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O

OTK – An acronym for Over The Knee spanking

P

Q

QoS – A cuckoldress or hotwife who has a sexual preference for black males.

R

RACK

Reclaiming

Ruined Orgasm

S

Safeword

Scene

Stag – A man who encourages his female partner to have sex with others, either in his presence, or on her own. Distinct from a cuck by the fact that there is little to no power exchange dynamic involved.

Soft Limit

SPH – Stands for Small Penis Humiliation – verbal humiliation of a man’s penis. A small penis is not required.

Subspace – An altered state of consciousness that the submissive partner experiences during a BDSM scene.

Switch – A person who shifts between the dominant and submissive roles, depending on the partner and the context.

T

Top/Bottom

Topping from the Bottom

TPE – Short for total power exchange

U

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V

Vanilla

Vixen

W

WLM – An acronym for wife-led marriage. This is a marriage where the wife takes the dominant role.

X

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Y

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Z

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Final Thoughts

This list will be a continuos work in progress. Please let me know in the comments if you feel there is something that should be added or changed!

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